Do you think that the missionary position is out of date, but you enjoy it the most? In fact, it ranks among the best poses in sex, and here’s why.
Today, everything revolves around sex and it is no longer a taboo topic. On the contrary, it is a widely spread topic, it is most normally talked about among both men and women. In the sea of this information about sex, you will come across those who consider the best poses in making love.
The list of these poses can discourage you if you are not in great shape, super stretchable, insensitive for discomfort and if you do not know how to do a rope while experiencing an orgasm.
So what if in porn movies you watch imaginative poses in making love and if you read that it is best to have sex in some unusual place or in a car? You are not in a movie, and you have your own sexual affinities.
If the missionary position is an act of pleasure for you and your partner, then it deserves to be the best pose in sex for you, even if it crowned you as the queen of boring sex.
Because, truth be told, we are a little unfair to this pose in bed and we quite underestimate its powers.
The missionary position is a classic
When we mention poses in sex, then the missionary position is a classic and what first comes to mind when we talk or think about sex. This is the pose in which the woman is down, and the man is above, and they are facing each other.
There are a couple of theories as to how one sex pose got this name, but it is most often associated with the statement that Christian missionaries declared it the only allowed sex pose, when, spreading the mission of Christianity, they found that some people make love in strange and animal poses. We will not now consider how they came to this discovery at all.
Not only is this love-making pose a classic, but in some states it is the only allowed bedtime pose. Do you think USA is a country of freedom and human rights? Well, we all know that marketing. But some of our states even prescribe poses in lovemaking by law.
In Florida, oral sex is prohibited by law, and the only allowed pose in bed is the missionary pose, as well as in North Carolina, and only in the shadow of darkness.
In fact, there are a number of twisted laws in the United States that restrict freedom of sex. For example, in North Carolina, it is not allowed to kiss a sleeping woman. You don’t have to pretend to have a headache there when you don’t feel like having sex. It is enough to pretend to sleep – you will avoid even a kiss.
Perhaps it was the resistance of those who obeyed the law in the bedroom that led to the degradation of missionary position and its underestimation as boring, uninspiring and ordinary.
Is the missionary position boring and outdated?
If you seek advice on the best sexual poses, then you will realize that you have failed in life because you have not yet studied the Kama Sutra manual and mastered sex in yoga poses that will drive you crazy.
In fact, many of these poses are overrated, uncomfortable and attractive only for shooting porn movies in private, but not for enjoyment. In that sense, the missionary position is not a good choice – those poses in bed or outside it that make the act of penetration more visible are much better.
And what happens when the lights go out and when sex should be pure enjoyment and exchange of emotions and bodily lusts between two people?
Then very often the boring missionary position becomes the right one and gladly accepted choice.
Is it boring?
The missionary position can have several variants that you can try during the intercourse to have a different feeling, and not be extremely uncomfortable while doing so. And it’s all but boring!
Here are the basic variants:
- Classic missionary position – your legs are spread and comfortably placed on the bed (floor or wherever you make love).
- Your legs around his waist. A slightly more demanding pose for both, but it has its advantages – you are both closer to each other. More rubbing means more physical stimulation of erogenous zones and a better experience.
- Legs on his shoulders. Here is a way to complicate the missionary position. If you are fit, you will enjoy this pose because you can manage it. Secondly, the penetration is deeper in this way, so it can bring you more enjoyment. Of course, this pose has its drawbacks because it is not very relaxing and comfortable, especially if you are not in good shape.
- Legs on one of his shoulders. Here’s how to turn things around a bit while making the position more comfortable. At least for you…
- Raised hips are a bridge to orgasm in this position. A couple of pillows under your hips, and you are well on your way to finding a g spot.
- Bend your knees. The missionary position can be easily transformed into a complicated version if you really want to. Bend your knees and lie down, and you will have a different experience. You don’t just have to lie with your legs spread. And if you’re already lying down, your partner doesn’t have to. He can kneel between your legs and approach you in the best way.
• Transform it into a “butterfly” pose. This is when you lie with your legs spread on the edge of the bed at the height of his hips, and he can approach you standing up. Usually the beds are too low for this pose, but you can always try it on the table. They are mostly of ideal height!
Reasons to worship a missionary position
Truth be told, both men and women love the missionary position.
This is actually the best pose for mutual enjoyment of sex that requires the least effort and enables the most pleasure.
You really have many reasons to love this pose:
- You will not get tired. That doesn’t mean you just have to lie down and do nothing, but he will do most of the work. Of course, no man will be pleased to make love to a girl who shows no signs of life, let alone signs of enjoying sex. So feel free to move your hips. Follow the rhythm and move up or down or in a circle. Bonus advantage of this sexual pose – such movements are a great exercise for the buttocks and thighs.
- It is comfortable, unless you make love on a hard surface, and then due to the movement and his weight, you get bruises from friction on your back. But when it comes to the best poses in bed, the missionary position dominates in comfort. You don’t have to do acrobatics, rely on your fingertips, balance and maintain balance while making love. And it’s not just you who’s comfortable, it’s comfortable for him, too. Yes, the pose against the wall seems passionate, but only in the movies. In reality, it requires a lot of maneuvering and strength, while at the same time you will hurt your back. There is nothing to enjoy in it!
- You can concentrate on enjoyment. When you are relaxed and when you are comfortable, all you have to do is enjoy, and not think about not ruining sex because you are not able to endure a pose until the end. Some attractive sexual poses, in fact, can be very impractical, but also painful and uncomfortable when it all takes place at the wrong angle. In a missionary position, you don’t have to think about it. It is enough to get a bit engaged, to concentrate on movements, rhythm, breathing, touches… Admit it, sometimes it is difficult to maintain balance, moan in rhythm and enjoy sex at the same time. Well, that’s multitasking!
- You can control your partner. Yes, he leads the game here, but you can also get involved. Put your hands on his buttocks and show him what rhythm you like.
- The easiest way to reach orgasm. Sometimes all you need to do is put a couple of pillows under your back or move your legs into a different position. Being relaxed is the biggest bonus in this regard.
- Romantic and emotional pose, if you are more of this type, you are not inclined to having sex just for the sake of physical activity, but it also has emotional value for you. This way you are facing each other and the relationship itself seems more intimate.
- Stimulation of erogenous zones is maximal. Although they are all over the body, most of them are on the front side, both with you and your partner. The missionary position naturally requires skin-to-skin contact, and it has numerous receptors, nerve endings that are thus stimulated. Find out what the male erogenous zones are and try to stimulate them further.
- It’s exciting, if you want it to be that way. You don’t need a mirror and some special tricks to take a look at the two of you in action. Just open your eyes!
Research has shown that neither men nor women hate this pose. On the contrary, it is among their three favorite poses in sex.
In addition, the missionary position, they say, is ideal for women who want to get pregnant.
How can a missionary position be better?
Do you think that your missionary position is boring for your partner and that you need to change something? It doesn’t have to be a pose, but the way you get involved in the game. If you think this is the best pose in bed, then just spice it up a bit with some little things.
- Be active. Move, explore movements and rhythm with him. Maybe somewhere the law prescribes that this is the only pose because it doesn’t look weird, but it doesn’t say anywhere that you should be stiff.
- Open your eyes and turn on the light. Looking at your partner during sex, at his body and face, can make you even more aroused.
- Use your hands and lips. There is no more suitable position for this than the missionary position. It is ideal for kissing, biting, and kissing the neck. Use your hands to better stimulate him, and it is not forbidden to try to stimulate yourself with your hands.
- Add something unusual. Do you have a fetish? Well, feel free to add it to the game. You can tie yourself to the bed and play a slave, you can blindfold him, make love in heels or try on a sexy toy. And you can try it out of bed, say in a car.
- Breathe. Breathing brings you closer to orgasm, you relax more, and sex is better. Start with light deep sighs and try to follow the rhythm of the movement. Concentrate on your body and experience. He will also like you to let him know out loud that you enjoy it. Of course, try to do it naturally, don’t force moaning at all costs and don’t pretend.
The missionary position is boring only if you participate in sex out of obligation and when you don’t like it. Then it is the easiest – you lie down and do it routinely. In fact, he does most of the work. But if you enjoy sex and indulge in it to share that passion with your partner, a missionary position may be the best sex pose.
Of course, which poses you use in bed depends only on the two of you, and not even the law can peek through your walls. Most couples like to experiment and change poses during sex, but many prefer missionary. Some poses in sex are really overrated and they are certainly more talked about and imagined than applied.
Today, it is not a taboo topic to talk about sex, nor about sexual preferences, fetishes and all possible and impossible variants, but it turns out to be almost inconceivable to enjoy a missionary position without getting the label of a boring and uninspiring mistress.
Those are just stories. In the bedroom, however, things are a little different. In order to be able to be in a crazy position, enjoy, and satisfy both yourself and him at the same time, you need to be a gymnast and have another pair of spare hands. And admit it, you end up in a missionary position very often. So what if you love it!
Do you also think that it is unfairly underestimated?
