While looking at the ads, did you come across those that offer erotic massage? What is it really and what does it all mean? Can you use it to your advantage?
You may be wondering what kind of service it is and whether you have a misconception about it, and maybe an ad like this will tickle you to find out more, try it and make sure if it is better than sex.
What makes erotic massage different from traditional
When we mention the word “massage”, then we have in mind mostly the traditional one for relaxation, i.e. Swedish massage. It is done by physiotherapists, although we ourselves engage in such attempts. It doesn’t hurt, does it?
The goal of a simple massage is to relax the muscles, act on a certain nerve and remove pain and tension. The movements are combined. It all starts with light and long movements that “warm up” the muscles, and then become a little rougher, such as kneading, tapping, rubbing.
Erotic massage is something completely different and you can’t say that it is ordinary. In fact, it is so special that some people think it is better than sex.
It differs significantly from ordinary relaxation massage. Unlike it, this one does not relax but, on the contrary, creates sexual tension and arousal. Erotic massage affects particularly sensitive areas on the body, so if you want to try it on your partner and check how it works, find out which male erogenous zones are.
Unlike ordinary, this intimate massage has a very exciting ending – orgasm. After that, you will definitely be relaxed.
In our country, it is usually like that or it is understood that way. Personal ads that offer such services are mostly treated as prostitution ads, although the act of erotic massage itself does not have to end with sexual intercourse between two people.
However, it will be difficult for you to classify genital massage (which are erogenous zones that are stimulated by this massage) into a socially acceptable service and business idea that will receive approval or support from society. And it is a form of providing sexual services.
Erotic socializing is nothing new. You have probably heard stories about Japanese geishas and courtesans who are often associated with the myth of providing such services.
The story of geishas is complex, and while some insist that it is art, for some it is just another, better name for elite prostitution. The technique of erotic massage, however, had some artistic feature and was appreciated as a skill in Japan.
In the western world, this massage also had its own therapeutic effect. With its help, in the 17th century, women were treated for a very common disease – female hysteria.
This disease was considered to be a consequence of sexual frustration, so this treatment was resorted to, which included the stimulation of erogenous zones, and it was performed by women who would be characterized as midwives today.
It seems that even then it was established that erotic massage for women is a better experience than sex itself. Later, this disease disappeared and the term was no longer used. However, today another name is used for it. Symptoms of female hysteria are probably what most women experience and feel during PMS.
The therapeutic properties of erotic socializing and massage have been shown to be effective in men as well, and it has been used in the treatment of erectile dysfunction or lack of sexual desire – something like manual Viagra.
Does that mean you shouldn’t try these erotic experiences if you don’t miss anything?
On the contrary, try it with your partner first. In fact, it can become your favorite form of foreplay, and you may realize that you love it more than sex.
When you are in an intimate relationship with someone, there is probably no better way to relax than this kind of massage that has no limits. Just think! A simple relaxation massage may relax and excite you, but you would suppress such feelings when they are not appropriate for the place, time or company.
Erotic massage is different and you don’t suppress any feelings. On the contrary, these feelings are even desirable, all the cards are open on the table, and if you want something more, you can achieve it with your partner.
Before embarking on a foreplay like this, talk to your partner about whether he or she wants to have this experience at all, and whether he or she is willing to give it to you. And if he doesn’t know what it’s all about, take the first step. When you have reached an agreement, all you have to do is prepare the atmosphere and drive him completely crazy in bed.
Is erotic massage for men different from that for women?
Certainly it is, because a lot of things take place around the genitals, and that is what distinguishes us the most. The other erogenous zones are more or less the same for us. You may be wondering how to massage a man in this way and prepare a great finish for him, and whether he would like something like this at all. We don’t think you should doubt it at all!
Erotic massage for men can be the best gift for your partner, especially in all those situations when you are celebrating some of your little holidays and important dates such as anniversaries, Valentine’s Day and the like. Giving him an unforgettable experience is something that will stay in his memory for much longer than some useless thing that should imitate your gesture of attention.
Every massage, especially this one with an explosive finish, should be relaxing and comfortable, which means that you should create such conditions in the massage room. Since you probably don’t have a professional massage bed or a salon for performing intimate stimulation, create the right atmosphere in your room.
- Warm the room. You will be without clothes, and it is not particularly comfortable and relaxing to feel the cold.
- Dim the lights. Light the lamps or candles to create a soothing atmosphere.
- Play some light relaxing music, preferably one that you don’t know and that doesn’t have lyrics, so that you and your partner don’t get distracted from pleasure.
- Warm your hands, cut your nails, take off your jewelry so you don’t scratch your partner.
- Prepare massage oil to make your hands glide more easily over the body. Avoid body lotions because they absorb quickly, so you need to apply them more often.
- Remove all distractions. Turn off your cell phones, tell your neighbors you went away for the weekend, and avoid all sorts of distractions or interruptions.
When you have prepared the conditions, you need to know how to perform erotic massage for men.
4 phases of hot erotic experience
The relaxing phase is the first and you need to relax your partner in it. You need to set him in the right position. It is very important to find a comfortable position for your bodies. He will not be comfortable if he has to lie in an unnatural position or if you knead him with your knees.
Since this erotic experience involves a back and shoulder massage, the ideal position is one in which he lies on his stomach, and you sit with your legs spread over his buttocks, lower back or thighs.
Don’t try to do this on a couch where you can’t find the right position or relax. In fact, the ideal place for an intimate massage is the floor.
After you have adjusted, massage his back and shoulders with light hand movements and kneading, and remove the signs of tension and stress.
The phase of light arousal is the part when your partner can turn on his back, with his face turned towards you. Here, you include more sensitive areas of the body, such as the neck, armpits, groin and pelvis, nipples, and the excitement gradually increases.
Start at the neck. Massage the upper body, tendons between the neck and shoulders for a few minutes. This part is often tense as well as the back and shoulder muscles. Then move over the collarbone a couple of times with light movements.
Take a little more sensual action. Massage the chest by passing lightly over the nipples, which are just one erogenous zone on his body. Switch to the arms, and especially on the armpits and the inner part of the forearm.
The part behind the knee, or the place where the legs join the upper part of the body, is equally sensitive, so pay attention to them. After all, research and monitor the signals his body sends you.
Do not use rough movements, pinching and kneading on these parts of the body, but gentle strokes that relax and excite, such as rubbing or simply scratching.
At this stage, you can expect a visible reaction to your touch – erection. Deal lightly with these regions for fifteen minutes.
The phase of complete arousal is the part you can least associate with a classic massage because the touches are extremely intimate. Now erotic massage for men is starting to look like a real foreplay, and the main play with the fingers is performed around his genitals and on the genitals themselves. Did you know that men also have a G-spot? This is an opportunity to stimulate it!
This is a longer phase of the erotic experience in which you play hot and cold games and can last about half an hour. The essence is to do everything to bring him to the climax by touching his genitals, and then to give him a little space to cool down.
You will notice when you need to withdraw according to the way he breathes and his reactions.
The orgasmic phase and climax are the culmination of the massage and a completely unconscious and completely relaxed state that occurs when the body relaxes so much that the brain only focuses on the feeling of pleasure. The very end of the massage is the climax of physical arousal, i.e. orgasm.
You will clearly notice that you have reached your goal through this intimate massage. Orgasm in men is accompanied by ejaculation, muscle twitching, loud breathing and similar sounds of pleasure.
All in all, you will offer your boyfriend complete sexual pleasure that he will experience without any effort. And it will surely be an experience to remember.
What can you expect in an erotic massage parlor?
If you are planning to try out what personal ads really offer and what sensual and intimate massage and erotic socializing is, then you need to know what to expect. This massage, we have already said, is not the same as a relaxing massage and the relationship with the person massaging is far more intimate, because the masseur touches your erogenous zones and genitals.
If you can relax in conditions when you are touched by a completely unknown person in the most intimate parts – you will enjoy and the massage will give results in the form of orgasm. Of course, this only applies if you are relaxed enough, because if you are in a spasm, you will have a hard time experiencing it and the whole experience will be a fiasco.
Intimate massage is often a term that is confused with prostitution, and places that provide such services with brothels.
What is the difference?
It all depends on your point of view and whether for you an act of sex starts with a hot foreplay or you can separate the two. One thing is for sure – this massage is far more intimate than ordinary.
You can expect touches on all parts of the body, even imaginative ways to do it like rubbing the body against the body or massaging with chocolate, and it certainly looks like providing sexual services.
Erotic massage of a man is really nothing but a way to satisfy him manually. Still, that doesn’t sound so sensational, does it?
Is erotic massage better than sex?
You don’t know that until you try it! Sex is sometimes really overrated.
Experiences are different. Probably the massage will not be better for you if you just provide it, and you are never in the role of the one who is being massaged.
On the other hand, this erotic experience can be more exciting than sex and take you to the climax, without thinking about whether something in your sexual relationship is pleasing or not pleasing to your partner. It is enough to just indulge in the hands of a skilled masseur.
Since the outcome is the same as in sex, and the treatment itself is much more selfish and focused on only one person, it is clear why this is a really great experience that you must try.
This may seem like a selfish experience and an act devoid of emotion and intimacy, but it’s not like that if you do it with your partner.
Keep in mind that erotic massage is not only an act of satisfying sexual needs or a method of treating PMS or female hysteria, but also a deeply intimate act of providing attention.
And believe me, you can really like it more than sex!
